Are you struggling to survive a long distance relationship? Are you in one of them at the moment? Would like some good advice on how to make the situation easier? Here there will be plenty of tips for you to follow and make your relationship healthier and happier. Being in a long distance relationship can be really hard and even if you really care about your partner you will sometimes have trust issues leaving you feeling jealous and insecure. It is very important to understand that if you both are putting all your effort in your relationship in the end it will be fine even if the start of your love path was tricky and uncertain. Let me share now with you different ways on how you can make a long distance relationship work.
Give eachother a present you can hold onto or something that will remind you of them.
There are many objects you can buy such as a piece of jewellery, a soft teddy, a mug but my best advice is to exchange your jumper, shirt or hoodie with them. It would be better if they have just worn it because it will have their personal scent on it and especially at night when I believe it is harder, it will give you that feeling that they are lying next to you.
Be clear and share your daily schedules
This is a very important factor as if you don't know what the other person is doing, that can turn out to be frustrating. The reason behind that is that you don’t know when to call or if you message them if you don’t get a reply for hours you might start to worry. When you are far from your other half there can be many questions as it is the distance itself that can make you anxious. Also by knowing each other's daily routine and work shift times it can help to arrange Skype or Zoom calls, phone calls or dates when you two can meet. It might sound hard at the beginning but with time you will get used to it and it will naturally be part of your everyday routine. You just need to find a time that works for both of you without expecting too much from one to another.
Trust each other and try to not jump to conclusions
It is hard to trust someone who lives under the same roof as us, especially at the very beginning of the relationship, imagine when they are far away. There are two issues here but the good news is that they can both be resolved! The first one is that if we are at the start of our relationship then it is very hard to trust someone that we hardly know. The second one is the distance itself. This last one can bring many negative thoughts in our mind, not just thoughts such as our partner being unfaithful to us, spending more time with their friends but also the possibility that something can happen to them and because of the distance we might not get there quick enough. If you feel unhappy and upset about your distance relationship or if you have just some doubts, talk with eachother about it, be honest and don’t keep secrets. That will help to keep the relationship strong and healthy and to build up a solid trust between you both.
Try to see eachother as much as possible
What is mostly missing about a long distance relationship is really the physical contact which of course, generally talking, is important. So meeting eachother as often as you can is crucial to keep the relationship going but it is essential to be realistic. How often you see eachother depends mainly on the distance but also on other commitments in your life. It is also understanding that when you meet up, you will tend to book the best hotel or trip and dine in the finest restaurant as you both want that moment to be special. But the reality is that travelling from one location to the other is expensive enough and unless you can afford it it will be highly impossible to meet up regularly and pay for extra pricey treats. Just being home, spending time together, watching a movie, cooking a lovely dinner and having a long conversation are simple things which are enough to create happiness in your relationship. What is important is also not how much time you spend together but the quality of it.
Being patient is another crucial factor
Even if you really both love eachother very much, there will be time that you might lose faith in the relationship and feel like giving up. Remember that the reason why you hold on for so long is because your feelings are real and that you treasure what you have. For many people a distance relationship is a temporary path of your life and it will get better. You will also learn to appreciate eachother more as you had to fight the distance and the struggle of being far from eachother for so long and you lasted!
Have a break from the phone
Texting your loved one is probably one of the most common ways to keep in contact with them but you also need to be careful on how much time you are spending in a day texting. The reason behind that is that staring at a screen all day long is not just unhealthy but also if you are texting eachother all day, you will run out of things to say on the phone. You also want to keep some kind of excitement and surprise in your relationship so try to give at least a couple hours gap before you start to txt again. I have been there myself and I know how hard it must be but trust me when I say that it will be good for your relationship and it will eventually become a habit!
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